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Guys - How To Have Women Eating Out Of Your Hand - Literally!
You know guys who have women literally eating out of their hand. Admit it - you've envied them but you've said to yourself. "What a jerk, can't she see through his antics?"; "Why don't women go for me like they go for him? Can't women see I am a genuine guy who is serious about wanting a relationship?"
The reason women don't go for you - a genuine guy- who is seriously looking for a relationship is that you are most probably too serious. Don't get me wrong she is seriously looking for a relationship but it has to be fun to start off with. She wants a playmate too. She wants a man who can make her laugh.
Getting married, keeping house and having children is serious business and she wants it all, don't be mistaken but she thinks all that is going to be fun. She sees the love stories on TV and in movies where the leading girl and guy are having fun. It all looks so enjoyable. So the first step to getting a woman is to make it enjoyable and fun.
You may not be the playful type. If you haven't got a woman, it's probably because you are a serious type; women don't usually go for really serious guys. So lighten up. It's OK to be serious at work, serious about playing chess or football but if you are serious about wanting a woman you must change your strategy, or you won't get one.
It's not easy to change overnight. It takes practice. I'm going to show you how.
Rule No 1
You have to be out there and available to attract women. You won't get a woman whilst you are sitting at your computer. You may be able to have an on-line woman but most of those don't eventuate. They are Clayton's dates. Be a real man and get yourself a real woman.
Set aside two nights a week for going out and looking for women. They are not going to come knocking on your door. Or make it easy for yourself; go to a reliable introduction agency. Do your research, check out a few websites. Pay a visit before you join up; ask questions, ask to see testimonials, ask to talk to a client who is using the service.
If you join an introduction agency you won't have to find women you will get a regular supply but you will have to allow time at least twice a week to meet women.
Rule No 2
Don't expect to end up with the first woman you meet. Expect to have several ‘practice runs' before you land the woman of your dreams.
If you expect the first woman you take out to be Ms Right you will get too serious too soon and blow it. Expect to burn a few along the way, and then you won't be so disappointed.
Be careful what you think about before your speak to her, meet her for coffee or take her out on a date. If you keep imagining she will be Ms Right it will make you so nervous I guarantee you will blow it. Imagine each woman you meet is just going to be a friend and a practice run.
DON'T EXPECT MUCH. If you learn nothing else this is the key to having women eat out of your hand. Expect little. When you expect little you are more likely to relax, it is easier to tease and be cool if this woman is only a practice run.
Rule No.3
Flirt, be playful and make her laugh. "How on earth am I going to be playful and flirt?" you ask. You have never been a flirt but you have been a tease when you were younger. All guys know how to tease. Women love to be teased they love the attention. You've teased your siblings or you've teased your dog so you know how to do it.
Unless you are a very experienced joke teller and you know you tell them well, forget that idea. You can make her laugh by telling her the funny things that happened at work. You can tell her stories against yourself. Women really appreciate men who can laugh at themselves - but not all the time.
One of the easiest ways to make her laugh is to tease her. She loves it because you are giving her attention and WOMEN LOVE ATTENTION. If you have the opportunity - practice teasing your mother & sisters or the older women at work. It takes practice so you have to start somewhere.
You say, "I don't want to get caught flirting with the older women at work". No don't flirt with them, just tease. The type of flirting you do with a NEW WOMAN is as tame as you would be with the older women at work. Practise on the tea lady or the woman behind the cafeteria counter.
No matter what all the men's books on "How to be a Ladies Man" state, don't dare try outrageously flirting by touching, stealing a kiss or wrestling with her, or any other direct method . You cannot afford to even dare try these methods with a new woman. It won't win you brownie points; it is more likely that she will run for cover.
Because you are new at this make your flirting as innocent as you would tease the older women at work. If you make friends with her, then you can flirt outrageously but not before. Even then you might lose a good friend if you overstep the mark. Now that I've warned you about seriously flirting, remember you must flirt, but gently.
No matter how gorgeous she is you can't afford to take her seriously. You must tease and be playful to get her attention. If you haven't done your homework - PRACTISED BEFOREHAND- expect that your first few attempts may fail.
Rule No. 4
Women are turned on by attention. Women love you to remember what they have told you. Women love reliable men. Men who ring when they say they will. Did you know MEN SEE - WOMEN FEEL? It's how you make her feel that counts. If she is not at all interested in you but you are fun to be with, remember what you told her yesterday and ring her when you say you will, SHE WILL CHANGE HER MIND.
If you don't think you can flirt or charm, you can listen. Shyness is usually caused by too much focus on one's self. If you are shy, you must make an effort to put an imaginary frame around her face and listen carefully to everything she says. Don't peer to closely into her eyes.
Look at her nose and smile with your eyes while you are listening. Acknowledge what she is saying. You know - say things like "no kidding", "really". A really cool guy will say, "How did you feel about that?" or "That wouldn't have made you too happy", or "I'll bet you were pleased about that". Cool comments when used at the right time.
All women love a man who is a good listener. Harry was a shy country boy but he wasn't too shy. Some guys' shyness causes them to be so self absorbed that they don't listen. Harry listened to women.
He was often seen sitting out dances listening to women, women of all ages. He won their hearts by just listening. He didn't only listen to the pretty ones he listened to all of them. He eventually won the heart of a very pretty girl who loved the attention of a man who listened.
Rule No 5
SHOW OFF. Show her your strengths. If you are reading this article, I take it you are not a great lover . . . YET . . . so don't try getting her into bed on the first night. Leave that until she is your best friend. It is much easier to seduce your best friend than it is to seduce a woman you hardly know. And you don't want to be accused of "date rape".
By strengths I don't mean sexual pursuits but normal strengths. Everyone is good at something or knowledgeable about something. Whether it's football, golf, art or music. Try to interest her in stuff that you are good at.
Everyone shines when they are good at something or knowledgeable. Knowledge is power, it's your strength. When she sees you at your best and most knowledgeable she won't be able to resist you.
Sue came to visit me at Entre Nous to report in about Graham she had recently met. Here's her story:
I wasn't at all interested in Graham but he invited me to go Kayaking. I had never been kayaking and really wanted to go but not with him. Anyway I said yes. The kayaking won. He came to pick me up. He had all the gear, was really well organised, knew what he was doing and we had such a good time. By the end of the afternoon I really liked him. We have been an item ever since.
If you take her to the football, keep up a running commentary. If you go to an art gallery, read up about the art beforehand. If it's a play, know all the actors and directors off by heart beforehand. This is subtle showing off and will have her eating out of your hand, if you are well mannered and considerate, take an interest in her and listen to her and tease her and make the outing fun. If you are going to listen to music, make sure you know all about that music beforehand, DO YOUR HOMEWORK.
Rule No. 6
Make her feel appreciated
Of course you appreciate her or you wouldn't be interested. It goes without saying! Doesn't it? NO! Women have to be told over and over that you appreciate them every time you meet them. However you can't say ‘good woman' like you say ‘good dog' to Rover. You must be much more subtle than that.
Notice things:" Is that a new outfit? It looks great. You hair's different today, it really suits you.
Remember things she has said: You said your mother isn't well yesterday, is she OK now? Your boss was giving you a hard time, has the situation improved? You said you were concerned about. ......... has there been any improvement?" When you are enquiring about personal things she has told you ask in a confidential manner when you are alone.
Express how you feel about her: She should know how you feel about her but women need to be told every time you meet or talk on the phone. Don't tell her she turns you on if you are still at the ‘just friends' stage, it will scare her off. Here are some examples but you know what you like about her, tell her so:
"You have such a cute smile. I like they way you walk. I love the way you burst into laughter so easily. I love to hear you chatting on so easily. I love the way you twist your hair around your finger. I am impressed by your loyalty to your friends. I am impressed by your care for your family."
If you notice her appearance, remember things she has told you, and express how you feel about her, you will have her eating out of your hand in no time.
Rule No 7
Ooze confidence socially
There is only one way you can do this and that is to practise being sociable with everyone you meet and act as though you are confident. If you act confidently, you will be surprised how your confidence will increase. NEVER BE SELECTIVE WHEN PRACTISING. You need to practise on everyone.
Have an extra little chat with people you would normally just say hello to. For people you would not normally speak to: say "hello"; in lifts, passing in corridors, in shops, wherever you are keep speaking to people. It may not be your style however it's going to give you confidence socially and you need this confidence if you are going to impress her.
Confidence is power and women are impressed by powerful men. It's more important than good looks, height or money.
Now don't say: "this is too hard and it's not me". If you keep doing the same old things you will end up with the same old result. You are reading this because you want women to eat out of your hand - so keep reading.
If you start saying "hello" to people in corridors without stopping, you will notice that people will make an effort to speak to you next time you pass. Try to become popular. Popular people speak to EVERYONE, they are not choosey.
Popular people offer assistance when they can. Popular people listen to what others have to say and remember things that have been said so that they can follow up when appropriate.
Popular men speak to all women not just the attractive, single women. Have you noticed how the playboy chats up all women - from 8 - 80 years, all sizes and shapes? He doesn't differentiate. By the time he gets to a stunning woman he is so practised he can charm her sox off on automatic pilot.
Become more sociable with your friends. Go out more. Don't let your woman think you are a recluse. It would be no fun for her if you have no fun. Make an effort. It's all part of practising.
Three very important tips to developing your social confidence are:
1 Laugh at others' jokes, whether they are funny or not. Be quick to laugh. Get into the habit of laughing more.
2 Accept compliments with thanks and try to repay the compliment at the time. Always, always, always say something like: "Thanks, I was just admiring your .............."
3 Pay compliments when you think them. Don't worry about whether your mates will get a swollen head, tell them when you think they are doing something great or look good. This will get you into the habit of being able to comfortably compliment a woman without feeling awkward.
You have to start somewhere so start with your friends and family. Practise, practise, practise. You can pretend to be confident but when you are tired or relaxed your inner self will let you down. You need to be used to this new confidence routine that's why it's important to practise.
The nice genuine guys who are a little on the shy side tell me that at nightclubs the used car salesmen get all the good looking women. Yet girls tell me that the only guys they ever meet at nightclubs are used car salesmen. The used car salesmen have developed confidence through their job.
However most girls are inclined to think of the used car salesman as superficial because he is not at all subtle and comes on too strong too soon.
Most men shy away from really beautiful women. They don't have the confidence to approach them. We find at Entre Nous dating agency that we seem to get more than our share of the stunningly beautiful women because men are afraid to approach them.
At an Entre Nous Spring Madness Ball, the most beautiful woman in the room with a Barbie doll figure complained that no one asked her to dance.
You can have a very beautiful woman, all you have to do is have the confidence and know that you most probably won't have much competition.
Rule No 8
Get Away with Touching
You will need to be very careful about touching a new woman but with practise you can get away with heaps. It's all to do with confidence. The secret is not to overdo it. Try touching all women so that you develop confidence within yourself.
When you are ushering a woman ahead of you through doorways etc. Touch her shoulder ever so lightly. When you open a car door, offer your hand to help her out of the car - it's up to her to let go, don't you let go.
At the water cooler touch her hand when you pass her a drink or in bars touch her hand as you give her a drink. Take her arm or touch her elbow, when you cross the road. Now out of date was the lighting of a cigarette, you touched her hand ever so slightly as you protected the flame from the wind.
When you tease a woman you can take something of hers and force her to touch you to get it back, but only if you have learned to be quick to laugh. When you develop confidence you can ask for a kiss in return. If you think she likes you, you can play truth or dare whilst walking or travelling.
Dare her to wear your tie; kiss your hand, hold your hand all the way up the street. If she does, make sure you stroke it ever so lightly, so gently that she couldn't complain.
Touching a woman inappropriately will send her off in the opposite direct so fast you will not know what's hit you - unless she hits you. Whereas if you are really gentle and subtle, you will be amazed at how often you can touch her.
Rule No 9
Accepting Rejection
No one likes rejection. You can avoid it by not doing anything or you can be subtle in the way you approach women. The Playboy has a very tough skin, he can be as cheeky as he likes and sometimes he gets away with it and other times he doesn't - he gets rejected. He can take it; it's all part of the game.
I have given you enough suggestions to develop your confidence, however if you touch women inappropriately or try to be too familiar too soon you will certainly be rejected. If you don't want to have your new self confidence shattered, be subtle.
Do you want the type of woman who accepts an overly familiar approach? No, of course not, because she would be too easy with every guy.
You will be rejected for sure if you keep trying to attract women but as you develop confidence and become astute at knowing how to avoid rejection, your rejections will become fewer and fewer. It is better to be less daring and have fewer rejections.
Don't try to emulate the superficial used car salesmen or the experienced playboy, develop your own style which is sensitive, genuine and caring of women.
Rosalind Baker is the Principal and Founder of Entre Nous Introduction Agency, Melbourne, Victoria, Australia, and author of 3 best sellers, Dial A Woman, Dial A Man and Dial A Personality To find out: Your Personality Type, or to find out", Are You Eligible" or "Are you ready for a relationship?" visit: www.singles.net.au
About the Author
Rosalind Baker's professional commitment to 'match making' is well into its second decade, although she has always possessed that innate ability to pair people off. She even introduced her ex-husband to his next wife! Having established Entre Nous: Relationship Consultants & Educators in 1991 she has now lost count of the number of relationships the organisation has helped to establish. While there have been many 'fly-by-night' introduction agencies over the past two decades in Melbourne, Entre Nous has stood the test of time. This is due, in no small part, to the professionalism and passion of Rosalind Baker. She has written three best sellers. The first, 'Dial A Woman' offers advice to Australian men on how to choose the right partner and then maintain a successful relationship. The obvious sequel, 'Dial A Man' advised women on how to recognise and attract the man of their dreams. While writing her third book, 'Dial a Personality', she realised she had discovered the successful formula for matching couples. As a journalist Rosalind has written extensively on social affairs and women's issues and is a well-known social commentator on courtship. Rosalind has been the delegate representing Australian and New Zealand at the International Institute of Introduction Services. She is a keen follower of the Arts and supports Opportunity International. She had four children and with her new husband, Tom Baker, they now have 11 grandchildren between them.
How To Become A Master Seducer - Be The Man Every Woman Would Crave To Have
Anyone who claims to be a born seducer is lying. Seducing women is an acquired skill and one has to painstakingly learn it to become a master seducer. Seduction is all about communication and taking the right approach. Being cute is not going to help if you are mute. If you think of a master seducer as someone who is shady and manipulative, you are wrong. The following tips will help you refine your seduction skills if you are shy and socially awkward....
Be real-
Women appreciate and respect real men. So, if you think that pick up lines and choreographed actions will win the girl you are sadly mistaken. If a girl catches your fancy, approach her confidently and start a conversation confidently, look in her eyes as you speak and be honest. Tell her you are attracted to her and don't be apologetic about it.
Be courteous-
Instead of saying "hey baby" greet her with a polite "hello" and begin the conversation. Do not be very philosophical but make sure you are having an intelligent conversation. During the course of the conversation encourage the girl to share her views on the issue you are discussing.
Be generous with your compliments-
When complimenting her looks, dress, or smile be generous. If you find her smile disarming say "You have a cute smile" or if she is wearing a gorgeous dress compliment her dress by saying "You're wearing a gorgeous dress and it's looking even more beautiful on you"
The key is you should be presentable and confident. Be the alpha male in the crowd; however do this without appearing caveman like. It would help if you let go the fear of rejection and not think of it when approaching a girl after all not all girls are made for you. So, if a girl does not fall for you there are others who will give you a lift.
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